Shy people tend to be quiet and introverted. They keep to themselves, preferring to stay in the comfort of their room than partying out. Mind you, it’s not that shy people don’t want to make new friends or have a nice time outside, they just don’t feel at ease with people.
Being called shy isn’t an insult. But it mostly depends on how the person says it. If someone says that you are shy in a disapproving manner, you might get offended immediately. Same thing goes for this situation, if someone says you are shy with a smile, it’s likely that you will smile too. In many ways more than one, being called shy can be a compliment rather than an insult.
What It Means When Someone Calls You Shy
It Means You Are Self Conscious About Yourself Around Others
When someone tells you that you are shy, it means that the person has noticed that you are self conscious about what you do, how you look like, how you eat or take your steps. He/she must have seen the way you take extra care to everything, so as not to get disapproving looks and comments. Just know that the person means well for you.
You Feel Uncomfortable When You Are With People
Shy people love to be in their safe haven, all alone. They prefer the company of themselves rather than friends, so when they have to go out of their safe havens, it is natural that they feel uncomfortable. When someone says you are shy, it might be because you feel uncomfortable around the crowd.
Maybe you just stare down at your place the whole time or focus on your phone during conversations. It might even be that you prefer to be invisible around everyone, like a shadow. This might be what someone means when he/she says you are shy.
You Are Quiet
Any shy person is reserved. They are super quiet and rarely talk a lot outside, though they might talk much to very close people. So if anyone says you are shy, it might be because you are very quiet.
You are around people but you don’t contribute to the discussion or you contribute little just because you don’t want people to notice you and that takes us back to trying to be invisible. So when someone notices that you rarely talk during conversations, they might just conclude and say that you are shy.
You Avoid Eye Contact
Extroverted people can actually hold a stare with someone else for several seconds before looking away but shy people would not even look people in the eye. They don’t just have the courage to do so.
So when they are outside, they prefer to look down or cast their attention at something else because they don’t want to glance briefly at anyone. This is why shy people prefer to be alone in their safe haven. And once someone realizes that you avoid eye contact, he/she would say instantly that you are shy.
You Are Very Nervous
It’s not a crime to be nervous at some point in time or situation. However, once you are nervous about almost everything that’s going on or things that would happen, you might be tagged shy.
Shy people don’t really go out much and because of this, they don’t experience much. But when they are outside, they get nervous because they don’t know what will happen next.
You might see a shy person biting and eating their fingernails or wrangling the edge of the napkin and all that. All these things happen because he/she is nervous. So If you are constantly nervous, sooner or later, someone will say that you are shy.
Why Do People Think Being Called Shy Is An Insult
Being Shy Is Seen As A Weakness
Not being comfortable around people, being quiet and timid is oftentimes seen as a weakness. This is because shy people often miss opportunities, either job opportunities or just connections, just because they are quiet.
This shouldn’t be the case but it has turned out so. No one wants to be labeled shy, all because it seems to be a sign of weakness. Shy people might look at their extroverted friends and wish to be like them.
Why?
Because they are easy going and easy to talk to and be with. So most shy people would hate being called shy because it’s just another form of weakness in their head, which in actual cases is not. Shy people are just who they are. They are beings that prefer being alone to being with a lot of people that they don’t really know. That’s not a weakness.
The earlier shyness is not termed as a weakness of any sort, the better, because only then can people stop thinking being called shy is an insult.
Shyness Might Be Mistaken For Rudeness
Shy people are mostly misjudged by others because of their quietness, which is often mistaken as being rude.
A shy person would want to talk and comment on issues but because of him/her being shy, the person sits back and refrain from saying anything. Any other person there might think that the person is proud, which we all know that is false.
If you are talking to a shy person, you would notice that you would not get full responses from the shy person and if you are oblivious to the fact that he/she is shy, you might just say that the person is rude outrightly.
It’s not that shy people don’t want to say more, they just don’t know how to say it. They want to go out to party but they feel insecure about being around crowds. They are introverts but they don’t want to be called proud or rude.
This is why most people think being called shy is an insult because being shy is mistaken for being rude or even proud.
How Do You Reply Someone Who Calls You Shy?
“It’s Who I Am”
If anyone walks up to you anywhere and anytime and says that you are shy. Give the person quite a dazzling smile and say “It’s who I am ” . That reaction alone could knock off someone who says you are shy.
Say this with sincerity and passion. You don’t need to change for anyone who thinks otherwise. You are on the right track. Keep doing what you love to do, even if it’s staying in your room all day. Because it’s who you are.
“Your Presence Automatically Does That”
Saying this statement would put something heavy on the head of the person who made the statement. Smile while saying this statement. If you are shy, you are shy. If anyone has a problem with this, dump this statement immediately.
The person would feel bad and hurt but you know better than that. Telling the person that his /her presence makes you shy automatically. The person might as well see it as a compliment rather than a comeback .
“Don’t Think I’m Shy, I’m Just Retaining My Awesomeness Away From Everyone”
When someone says that you are shy, tell them that you decided to keep your awesomeness away from everyone. This would attract a smile from anyone there. Shy people are mostly intelligent and have potential and talent.
In a way, their quietness and shyness would be compensated for by another skill or talent. So remember, you are just keeping your incredible awesomeness from everyone until the time you think is right comes.
“Of Course, Being Shy Is Another Aspect Of Being Cool”
Let anyone who calls you shy or timid, stand up to them by telling them a big secret. What is the secret? Shyness is another dimension of being cool. Keep telling everyone because they should start to see being shy as cool
If you actually replied with this statement, know that you would get a ready smile and favorable expression. Just saying again that shyness is another dimension to be better.
“Keep Mute”
As far as I am concerned, the best way to reply to the statement of you being shy is to keep quiet. Focus on whatever you are doing. Maybe you are reading or watching a movie or you are about to take a nap, just continue what you are doing.
When the person comes up to you and says you are shy, just don’t react or say anything concerning what the person said. Just act like no one came around you. Mesmerize yourself in books and music. Once you don’t give an answer, the person would actually feel like a fool or like intruding .
Conclusion
Your silence keeps the person bothered and confused, feeling very down because he/she was expecting a type of comeback and flash of anger but that did not come later on.
Learn to be silent, especially when you know that the answer would bring about a quarrel among everyone.
Keep mute, be silent.
