Someone cannot just see you and conclude that you are shy without taking note of some traits that you may have. If the person calls you shy it could either be true or untrue based on the signs you show.
If you know full well that you are not a shy person but the person still went ahead to call you shy, then you need to have a good response for the person. The same thing applies when it is true that you are shy.
20 Ways To Respond When Someone Calls You Shy
- You probably just met me for the first time
- You are fortunate to have seen the reserved part of me
- I am not shy, I know how to switch it up
- Try to know me a bit, you will have a rethink
- Can you just mind your business?
- You should know people before judging
- When will you stop generalizing quiet people to be shy?
- You are free to think whatever you want
- I will not answer you because I know I am not shy
- I recommend you do something better with your time
- I am working on myself
- You won’t be the first to tell me such
- Were you a shy person growing up? How did you overcome it?
- Do you have any problem with it?
- I get nervous around new people I just met
- Maybe I keep things to myself a lot
- It depends on the type of people I have around me
- Last time I checked, I never said I was overconfident
- I am comfortable In my skin
- Do you intend to change me?
You probably just met me for the first time
When people just meet you, many of them have no idea who you are and if you are a confident person or not.
When the person calls you shy, do not get upset easily. You may have to understand that the person barely knows you.
This is a good reply that you can give, you should also endeavor to let the person know that he should not judge you yet, he should seek to know you.
You are fortunate to have seen the reserved part of me
Maybe the person just met the reserved part of you. Some people can be so reserved when they are around a group of people that they are not comfortable with.
If someone meets the reserved part of you, he only met you when you were so quiet.
That is why the person thinks you are so shy. Usually, when you are reserved, you tend to not talk too much, and when you don’t talk too much, people think you are shy.
I am not shy, I know how to switch it up
Some people know how to switch things up, they know when to be loud and when to switch it up and when to be quiet. Let the person know this, the person will understand that you know how to switch things up.
Once the person knows that you know how to switch things up, he will understand that you are not a shy person. You only know how to switch things up when necessary.
Try to know me a bit, you will have a rethink
Some people may have an opinion of you the moment they see you. That is why someone who just met you may think that you are shy because of how you presented yourself to the person.
In your reply, you can tell the person to rethink and he should try to get to know you a bit. That way, it will become glaring to you if you are shy or not.
After advising the person to rethink, if he rethinks, he will understand if you are shy or not.
Can you just mind your business?
This reply is more like a comeback to let the person know that you are not comfortable with him calling you shy.
You can tell the person that he should rather mind his business. That way, he will be able to do something better for himself and he will not waste his time focusing on if you are shy or not.
If there happens to be a next time, he will rather do something better with his time than use that same time and energy to call you shy.
You should know people before judging
This is a direct response to the person that he should know before judging. Do not just see someone and you are so swift to judge the person.
Once the person gets the message, he will not do such a thing again, he will prefer to know who someone is before calling the person shy or even judging the person.
This is a good reply you can give. It will go a long way to help.
When will you stop generalizing quiet people to be shy?
Most people usually think that quiet people are generally shy. But it is not true in all situations.
Not all quiet people are shy, some are just vigilant and waiting for the right time to speak before they speak.
That is why it seems like the quiet person is so shy. Shy people do not talk too much unless they are being talked to.
When you think that all quiet people are shy you are just generalizing. You need to stop doing that.
You are free to think whatever you want
This shows you do not care if the person calls you shy or not. At this point, you are not even moved by what the person says or thinks about you.
You are telling him straight up that he is free to think whatever he wants and you are not moved by it.
I will not answer you because I know I am not shy
This reply shows that you are very confident in yourself and you will not answer the person because you feel like you do not need to waste your time on someone who thinks you are
I recommend you do something better with your time
This way you are directly telling the person that he could do something better with his time. You are saying he wasted his time calling you shy.
The person will not want to feel like he is wasting his time. Next time he will not even consider calling you shy because he already believes that he is wasting his time.
I am working on myself
This shows that you accept the fact that you are a shy person and you do not doubt the person that told you that you are shy.
This way, you already admit that you are shy and you accept that fact. However, you are telling the person that you are working on yourself.
You won’t be the first to tell me such
You are telling the person in this reply that he is not the only one telling you that you are shy. This means that other people have been telling you the same thing and that you are already aware of it.
The fact that you have made it known that he is not the first person to tell you that you are shy, is no longer new to you and you do not bother.
Were you a shy person growing up? How did you overcome it?
You have admitted that you are shy and you want to get his opinion on how he was able to overcome his shyness.
In this reply, you are also asking him if he was shy while going up and you want to get some ideas from him on how he was able to overcome his shyness, who knows, you may be able to learn from him.
Do you have any problem with it?
You are being defensive in this reply, when he tells you that you are shy, you ask him if he has any problem with it.
It is a way of indirectly telling him to stop talking about you being shy and telling him to face it if he has a problem with it.
I get nervous around new people I just met
Sometimes people tend to get nervous the moment they are around people they just met. People they are not familiar with. This happens to a lot of quiet people.
Even though it happens to quiet and reserved people, it doesn’t mean that they are shy. Some people will wait till they get comfortable around you before they can share or even talk with you.
Do not think that people like these are shy, they are just waiting to be so comfortable around you before they can talk or even become so free with you.
Maybe I keep things to myself a lot
Those who keep things to themselves a lot tend to not share or talk with a lot of people. When they are going through something tough in life, they will not share it, they will rather keep it to themselves.
When you see someone who has this trait, you will think that the person is shy, but the person may not be shy. He may just be too reserved and secretive that he cannot share things with people. Do not mistake this for shyness.
It depends on the type of people I have around me
People like this can either become quiet or loud depending on who they have around them.
That is why when you see someone new, do not just conclude that the person is shy because he does not talk too much around you.
Maybe he is not yet comfortable around you. If you check back, he may be loud around a group of people he is comfortable with. This is something you should know so that you will not stereotype anyone.
Last time I checked, I never said I was overconfident
This is a reply telling the person calling you shy that you never said you were overconfident. If the person is calling you shy, it means that he once thought that you are overconfident.
Tell him that you are not overconfident, and neither are you shy. You know how to carry yourself without being too overconfident.
This is a good reply that you can give.
I am comfortable In my skin
This shows that you are comfortable being a shy person and you do not have any problem with it.
Once you reply by telling him that you are comfortable in your skin, he will stop bringing it to your attention that you are a shy person.
He already understands that you accept it and you have no problem with it at all.
Do you intend to change me?
This is a good comeback that you can use. Once you give the person such a reply he will understand that you do not intend to change yourself from being a shy person and you are also asking if the person intends to change you.
With a reply like this, the person will not even bother telling you again that you are a shy person. He already understands that you are not comfortable with him telling you that you are shy.
Not all quiet people are shy, this is a stereotype that needs to stop. That you see someone so quiet does not mean the person is shy, sometimes it’s just that the person is waiting for the right time to talk before he talks.
It could also be that the person talks better when he is around people he is comfortable with.