What to Say When Someone Calls You Heartless

When someone calls you heartless, there must have been something that the person saw that made him call you heartless.

It could be that you were in a bad mood on a particular day and you had to react in a bad way to someone who must have made you upset.

It could also be that you transferred aggression to someone else because something bad happened to you.

Maybe you did not mean to act that way. But because the person had that first impression of you expressing your anger, the person must have taken it as you heartless.

If someone calls you heartless, do not be upset, it may just be his first impression of you. The good thing is that the first impression about you can change depending on how you reply to the person.

That is why I wrote this article to show you things to say when someone calls you heartless.

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20 Things To Say When Someone Calls You Heartless

Trust me, your first impression of me will change soon

You just saw the bad side of me and you decided to conclude
I am not heartless, it was only a transfer of aggression
I will not try to change myself for you

If you know me well you will know that I am not heartless
Do you not think it is too harsh to call me heartless?
If you were the one I called heartless how would you feel?

Why would you call me that?
Not everyone will tolerate that, I hope you are aware.
Were you not too quick to conclude that?

Try to mind your business and focus on more important things
How can you be so sure? You barely know me
You just saw me at my worst, I was not being heartless

Check me back when I am at my best, you will see how sweet of a person I am
Do you even know what you are saying?
Only if you know the consequences of what you said, you will not be saying this

How well do you know me to be able to make such a conclusion about me?
You are free to say whatever you want, I cannot control that
I am surprised that you have this opinion of me

I heard this from you first

Trust me, your first impression of me will change soon

Usually, when someone has an opinion of you the person seems to hold on to that first impression of you. This happens when the person has a bad impression of you at first, the person may think that that is how you are.

When someone has a first impression of you and he finds it hard to believe you are a different person and calls you heartless, you can reply by telling the person that his impression of you will soon change.

When you give this reply, the person may have a rethink and if his impression of you changes, he will not call you heartless again.

You just saw the bad side of me and you decided to conclude

This happens a lot when someone meets you for the first time and it was so unfortunate that the person met you at your worst, probably when you were having a heated argument or exchange of words with the person.

Then because of something you did or said when you both were having a heated argument, the person chose to hold on to the impression that you are heartless. The person was just unfortunate to meet the bad side of you when he first met you.

Let the person know that he just saw the bad side of you and that is not exactly how you are. He should not call you heartless anymore.

I am not heartless, it was only a transfer of aggression

Sometimes someone else can piss you off and then you go to another place, only for you to get pissed off by another person because you were pissed off by someone else, you had to transfer the aggression to someone else, and that alone made it seem like you are heartless when you are not.

Because that person saw you transferring aggression to someone else, it made you look like you are heartless when in the real sense you are not heartless.

You will need to explain to the person that it was only a transfer of aggression and it was not as if you are heartless. One has to be hopeful that the person understands that it was only a transfer of aggression.

I will not try to change myself for you

In this reply, you already know that you are not a heartless person and you are not ready to explain it to anyone if they call you heartless.

You can simply reply to the person and let him know that you are not going to try to change yourself for him to believe that you are not heartless. This shows that you do not care too much about what people think of you.

If you know me well you will know that I am not heartless

You have a lot of people that can back you up and that they know that you are not heartless. If someone calls you heartless, you would not feel like you have to prove anything to the person by trying to explain to the person that you are not heartless.

Only if the person could take his time to get to know you well, he would have a change of mind and then he will start to believe that you are not heartless.

However, if the person is not willing to know more about you to know if you are heartless, then you should not bother trying to explain, you may not be able to convince the person.

Do you not think it is too harsh to call me heartless?

There are times that you call people names, only for you to realize that calling that person names sounds harsh. It is not good to be too harsh with people.

If calling the person heartless is too harsh, you should desist from such because if you were to be in the person’s shoes, you will not be happy if someone calls you heartless.

If you felt it was too harsh, let the person know in your reply that you are not comfortable with him calling you heartless, that it is harsh.

If you were the one I called heartless how would you feel?

Ask the person how he would feel if you were the one that called him heartless. Let him also understand that it is not a cool thing to call someone heartless. When the person understands that, he will desist from doing such.

This is a straightforward answer that you can give that will help to pass your message accordingly. You do not even need to talk too much, just give this reply and it will go a long way to pass your message accordingly.

Why would you call me that?

When someone calls you heartless, you have no idea what the person had in mind before calling you heartless. Ask him what his intention is after calling you heartless, when he replies you will have a clearer understanding of why he chose to call you heartless.

If he called you heartless for the wrong reasons, you will also be aware of it and you will know what to do. Do not fail to let him know that you are not pleased with the fact that he called you heartless, no matter what his reasons are.

Not everyone will tolerate that, I hope you are aware.

When you call someone heartless, not everyone will calmly respond to you. The person has to be careful with who he calls heartless or other names. If it were to be someone else, the person may not take it likely. He may even choose to take it as an offense or an insult.

The bottom line is that the person should be careful with his choice of words.

Were you not too quick to conclude that?

People tend to be too quick to conclude especially if they just met you for the first time. The person must have met you when you were not in the best mood, then he had to conclude that you are heartless.

Reply by letting the person know that he should not be too quick to judge or call you heartless. Let the person take his time to know you well before concluding.

Try to mind your business and focus on more important things

This may be a mean reply, but sometimes, mean replies go a long way to solving the problem. It will also pass a message to the person that you are not happy with such remarks that the person said.

Let the person know that it pays to mind your business and that he would have been better off if he decided to do something better with his time.

How can you be so sure? You barely know me

This person calling you heartless barely knows anything about you. Let him know that. That way, he will understand that it would have been better if he did not say anything than for him to conclude about you when he barely knows you.

You just saw me at my worst, I was not being heartless

This is a reply that shows that the person knows you already, but because the person saw you at your worst, he just concluded that you are heartless. Tell him to get prepared to have a better opinion of you the next time both of you meet.

Check me back when I am at my best, you will see how sweet of a person I am

You are indirectly telling the person that you are not as heartless as the person thinks you are, you are a sweet person but he does not know because when he met you, you were at your worst. Tell him to check you back when you are at your best.

Do you even know what you are saying?

Some people talk without having a clue about what they are saying. That could be the same situation here. Ask if he knows what he is saying. That way, he will have to rethink if he should have said what he said.

Only if you know the consequences of what you said, you will not be saying this

Things we do come with consequences. Sometimes when you do not know the consequences of what you do, you tend to make rash decisions without thinking well about it.

Let the person know that there are possible consequences for calling someone heartless and he will not do that again.

How well do you know me to be able to make such a conclusion about me?

This is a reply asking the person how well he knows you for him to be able to make such conclusions about you. Next time, he should seek to know who exactly you are before calling you heartless.

You are free to say whatever you want, I cannot control that

You are aware that you cannot control how others see you. In this reply, you let the person know that he is free to say whatever he wants.

I am surprised that you have this opinion of me

In this reply, you expected the person to think highly of you. But the person thought so low of you and called you heartless.

I heard this from you first

He may be the only one telling you that you are heartless. Maybe there is something he can see that other people cannot. If he can see something that other people cannot let him know in your reply.